Supervisors find them unruly and unreasonable. Of course, it’s no surprise that most authority figures dislike working with narcissists. If confronted by their inappropriate behavior, they tend to deny or rationalize their part.
While narcissists can be intelligent, they often come across as combative and unfit in professional environments. Has the narcissist in your life had multiple jobs? Are they frequently getting reprimanded for their behavior? It’s not uncommon for narcissists to have issues at work, school, or with the law. Any sense of authority threatens their inherent desires for power and control. That’s because they resent having to answer to anybody but themselves. Their inability to absorb facts demonstrates their incompetence in approaching most adult interactions. They are not skilled in the language of facts because they are always lying and hiding things, so speaking factually throws them completely off-balance. If anything, this dynamic only highlights the narcissist’s immaturity. They attempt to elevate the conversation’s intensity by throwing an emotional temper tantrum. This childish response simply shows that they feel out-of-control. They will usually retaliate with more arguing or hysteria. Therefore, they hate when someone challenges them with facts instead of emotion. So, when you speak in facts instead of using emotion, they intuitively understand they have less of an upper hand. They skew reality to meet their worldview, and they believe their truth is always the truth.Īdditionally, through the use of cognitive empathy, they’ve spent their entire lives observing the emotional language of other people and using it to their advantage. Have you ever paid close attention to how a narcissist speaks? They use excessive, long-winded language charged with grandiose emotion. This is also why the traditional Grey Rock method is often pointless and why complete avoidance is the best route (or extreme modified contact if you share children with them).
They don’t know how to feel important or special if they aren’t the center of the universe or consuming someone’s thoughts. Narcissists can’t stand when no one is paying attention to them. They’d rather you have a negative opinion than have no opinion at all. To a narcissist, indifference is even more of an issue than hatred. Therefore, a lack of acknowledgment is a real threat. In fact, they often like negative attention better because if you’re still bothered by their relationship crimes, they can exploit this in order to deepen the trauma bond and keep you hooked and entangled! It gives them the motivation to keep proving themselves. The negativity is still attention, and any form of attention gives them the incentive to keep going. To achieve this goal, they absorb (or steal) the energy of other people to feel good about themselves.ĭo you ever wonder why narcissists don’t seem to mind the negative attention? It’s because negative attention also fuels their narcissistic fire. They depend on constant approval to maintain their sense of intrinsic worth. It’s no secret that most narcissists revel in admiration and validation (except for ‘closet narcissists’). Just for the record, trying to make a narcissist miserable might have its place for a short period of time, but I don’t recommend focusing on it for too long as this will inevitably have an effect on your mental health and energy levels.īut, if you need a quick fix, let’s get into the top 12 things all narcissists hate.
But have you ever wondered how to make a narcissist miserable? You certainly know what you don’t like in your relationship. You see how they treat other people (and yourself), and it’s appalling. We do this by listening to God’s voice and doing what he says.You probably spend a great deal of time feeling defeated and frustrated by the narcissist in your life. The blessing so that we can continually receive the blessing of God. When we claim this provision and become delivered we cannot simply leave it there, we must now ensure we continue to meet the conditions of Breaking curses “Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us (for it is written, “Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree”, that the blessing of Abraham might come upon the Gentiles in Christ Jesus, that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith. He was wounded so we can be healed, died so we can have life and cursed so we might be blessed to be delivered from the curse. Jesus made the provision for us to pass from a curse to a blessing by dying on the cross for us.